Oh hello 2018! It’s the New Year; time to make a fresh start. Forget about anything that wasn’t accomplished in 2017. It’s all about moving forward.
I’m not the biggest fan of too many resolutions, however I do like to set a few attainable new year goals for the family. It’s fun to sit together and share what we’d like to accomplish as a family over the course of the next twelve months.
Listen More, Talk Less
We hit a few rough patches in 2017 when my oldest was struggling with the sport she loves and friendships at school. I found myself talking entirely too much, giving too much advice, and trying to help solve her problems. What I should have been doing? Listening.
I read a great article about navigating the rocky road of girl’s friendships. This completely changed the way I engage with my daughters. More of this.
“Listen first, and don’t try to solve everything — which is really tough!” If you feel the need to be involved, ask your daughter, ‘How would you like me to help?‘ Or you can role-play different situations so she has tools to stand up for herself. But without the pressure to actually do it.”
After testing the waters on several occasions, our relationship and bond has gotten much stronger. She’s initiating more conversations and sharing more frequently without me constantly nagging.
Go on More Adventures
Thankfully our girls have little interest in devices, however when they have down time I feel like TV is their go-to. We all agreed – more outings are a must! Even if it’s just getting in the car on a Sunday afternoon with no plan. Sometimes the best adventures are spontaneous!
Family game night, evening walks, weekend bike rides, trip to the park – these all count and cost nothing. Another reason I need to pull out my copy of the Well Played book. For any parent looking for guidance on being more playful – this is a must!
Save More for College
Time is flying by and the girls are growing up before my eyes. The past few months we’ve partnered with Country Financial, sharing tips and our college savings plan (you can read more here and here).
Who knew college was going to be so expensive? We should be saving more for college based on our goal of paying for the first two years. Even if you haven’t started saving (it’s never too early or too late), investing in a college education plan is something to consider as a New Year goal.
We also began talking to the girls about their college plan. It was interesting to learn that my oldest has every intention to continue All Star cheer. Talk about a rude awakening – for us and her! Sorry sweetie but there is no budget for competitive cheer beyond high school. Saving for college takes priority.
Thankfully, the college conversation evolved into discussing their savings contribution and what that will eventually look like.
If you’re like me and realize time is going by so fast, I hope you’ll start thinking about your child’s college education and include as a New Year goal for the family. COUNTRY Financial is a great starting point and can assist with setting up a 529 College Savings Plan. Follow on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to get updates on important financial topics.
More Acts of Kindness
We’ve been struggling helping the girls understand life is NOT always even-steven. My daughters are convinced everything should 100% equal. It finally dawned on me we need to practice more giving and expecting nothing in return.
Being kind doesn’t always come naturally to every person. It takes practice and doing acts of kindness as a family is a fun way to bond and instill compassion and service. Something as simple as walking a friend’s dog is great place to start. I found this awesome and attainable list of 100 acts of kindness for kids if ya need a little help!
What are your New Year Goals for the Family?
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Krystal Butherus says
These are all great goals for the family! I’d like to incorporate some of these as well, like going on more adventures and saving for college. Of course, random acts of kindness is always a great thing!
Mariangelica Forero says
Your daughters are lucky to have a mom that is thinking about these wonderful ways of taking on the new year. I love the going on more adventures, I think its key for children these days to explore more!
Alison Ray says
Thank you for the positive feedback! Can’t agree more! Happy New Year!
Alison Ray says
Thank you!
Taylor Aube says
This is such a sweet post with even sweeter pictures! Wishing you and your family the best this 2018 – hope you hit all of your goals!
Cassie S says
It is important to make sure goals are attainable. We also want to adventure more this year. There is so much to see on our bucket list. Thanks for sharing your goals 🙂
Rebecca Bryant says
My goal is to spend as much time with the teen boy as possible before he leaves for college. It is my main goal this year.
kimberly lewis says
I love your family goals! we all get so busy that we forget to do the little things.
Rachel says
The goal is to save more. That includes saving for college. I want to save for a new house and general life as well.
Terri Steffes says
I am in love with the acts of kindness. I hope you share some of the ones that you choose to do. I would love to hear the stories!
Tiffany Haywood says
Amazing goals Alison! I think part of ending a year with a sense of accomplishment is setting goals that are attainable. Listen was my focus word a few years back and it definitely helped me to be more present in each moment of my life and the lives of my family.
Jane says
Wow you really have a wonderful family. These goals are so important to be talking about. Especially things like saving for college which sneaks up!
Renee @ The Good Hearted Woman says
Not only is setting attainable goals a better way to start the new year, but in doing so, you are teaching your girls some powerful, important lessons.
Jessica Joachim says
I love simple goals! We started saving for the kids’ college already and I know it will be so good for them when they are older. I also plan on going on more adventures this year as well and exploring our state.
Brittany says
Your family has some great resolutions ahead of you. One of my resolutions is also to go on more (local) adventures with my kiddos, especially during the summer.
Alison Ray says
It’s so much harder in the winter but the Well Played book is so helpful!
Alison Ray says
Thank you!
Alison Ray says
Thank you! Hope these tips help a little!
Alison Ray says
Thank you! Listening first isn’t always the easiest – is it?
Alison Ray says
Oh good idea to share what we do! Will have to keep that in my for a future post.
Alison Ray says
Good luck with your saving goals!
Alison Ray says
Thank you and so true. Life gets in the way most days but we all do the best we can!
Alison Ray says
Good luck with your son going off to college! What an exciting time for you both.
Alison Ray says
You are so welcome!
Alison Ray says
Aww thank you so much!
Kelly Nelson says
Such a great list! Thank you for the inspiration! Your blog looks awesome!!
Mommy Pehpot says
Go on an adventure is such a fun idea. We love traveling. Visiting different places would be our 2018 goals.